Our Essentials for Thriving in a Tiny Space
At the end of September we will hit our one year anniversary of living full-time in Betty White, our Casita Travel Trailer. We will have survived a whole year of living together in less than 100 square feet (and a year before that in less than 400 sq. ft. plus six months bouncing around between AirBnBs and family’s homes). Looking back on it it doesn’t really seem like it has been that long – even when some days have felt VERY long. So in honor of our year in Betty White I thought I would share my thoughts on what has helped us thrive (or some days maybe just survive) in such a small space as a family.
1. A sense of humor – This might go without saying but we have been reminded over and over again how essential it has been to keep a sense of humor throughout this process. To look back and laugh on our mishaps or even laugh at them in the moment. To make light of some experiences that are inconvenient or annoying or even stressful. To not take things so seriously (this was mostly my lesson – Adam is pretty good at that).
2. Allowing ourselves to be open – Saying yes to more things or at least not saying no immediately. Thinking outside the box and really considering and exploring things that might not be traditional (not that living in a camper of any size and traveling full-time is) or feel out of our comfort zones.
3. Communication – With each other but also with our family and friends who may not understand where we are coming from choosing to live nomadically and in such a small space. As we have grown and changed over the last couple of years it has created distance from people who don’t live a similar life or by similar values and it takes a lot of work to bridge the gap. This has been an unexpected result of our life choices and maybe something I will write more about in the future.
4. Focusing on the positive, appreciating what we have. – Reminding ourselves when we feel ourselves become negative or complaining about things like having too much stuff in one space, lack of privacy or climbing over each other at night about why we chose this life and the things we do have because they have more value to us like being close as a family, traveling and exploring new places.
5. Patience – patience with ourselves and with each other. A reminder that change is not easy for anyone, adjustments take time and that we won’t always get things right.
6. Flexibility – to recognize something isn’t working, to not become to attached to an idea or place or process, to find something that is a better fit, to know when to move on or when to let go of something that provides no value. Reminding ourselves that just because we tried something and it isn’t the right fit for us it doesn’t need to be defined as failure.
7. Identifying and balancing priorities – being intentional about the choices that we make by identifying what our needs and priorities truly are and choosing to give up certain things for other things that may add move value, even if it makes us uncomfortable at first. For example, we chose to go without a traditional bathroom in our Casita to allow for a designated bed and play space for Idgie.
It may seem curious to some of you that I would think about what has helped us over the last year of living tiny because it is actually something we chose, but despite intentionally making the decision to live even smaller than we had been it was still a scary and challenging move. All of the things mentioned above are skills that I think are really essential for thriving in life in general but living tiny had forced our hand at practicing some of these things on a regular basis and makes me more aware of them. For that I am thankful.
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